While anal play can be a lot of fun, it’s not always comfortable. But if it ever does feel uncomfortable, there are better ways to deal with that than just hoping it’ll change.

Sexologist and Brand Manager of The Porn Conversation, Avril Louise Clarke, helped us to distill down the importance of porn literacy and how we, as a society, can use it to be more informed consumers of the porn we are watching.  

At flossy, we’re always looking for ways to re-write the sexual script in one that feels inclusive and pleasure-centered. We invited Danielle Bezalel, aka “DB” – creator, executive products, host of Sex Ed with DB.

Discover your pleasure language: The Pleasure Languages are based on the many fundamentals. We chat Somatic Sexologist, Anthea Balfour.

Our relationship with pleasure can be complex and it may take time to unlearn societal narratives of what pleasure ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ look like for you.

Pleasure can be found in everything if we are mindful. It brightens our lives, be it a sensual or sexual pleasure. I also think a covid world where we are at home more presented us with an opportunity to connect and focus on pleasure and cater to our senses and some of us ran with it as evident by the high sales of sex toys wink wink lol.

I wanted to create a space that did everything in its power to go against that. A space where movement is allowed to be whatever you want it to be on the day, there are no expectations. At Good Times we focus on facilitating a movement experience free of shame and movement fear, that’s empowering and joyful, that doesn’t pretend or perform and instead welcomes you to have a human experience.

The patriarchy often denies that people with vulvas can be sexual agents who make moral decisions in light of their own sexual desires. In heterosexual relationships, for example, the patriarchy reinforces that women should have sex with male partners regardless of whether or not they desire it, or are likely to find it pleasurable.

This week, we asked, you answered —"What's something you wished you learned in sex ed?" In a recent flossy survey, even something as common as vaginismus was information one woman reported not finding out about until her honeymoon when she had penetrative sex for the first time! 

First and foremost, start with exploring yourself. Either with a mirror or by simply closing your eyes – it will be trial and error and certain products will work for some folks and not others. You are your own artist and you can curate your own pleasure based on your body… which is always changing.

In a society that praises heterosexual, monogamous experiences, it's common to wonder if your fantasies are "normal." Sex Educator Eleni Gabrielides says "fantasies are a wonderful tool to spark arousal" and even if you think our fantasy is weird and abnormal, simply thinking about something isn't your subconscious telling you that it’s something you want to do IRL.

A sexually liberated society is a healthy, connected and empowered society. When we are sexually liberated, we understand that sex goes beyond the physical experience or orientation – beyond gender identity and beyond social expectations. As sexually liberated beings we will understand that our sexual expression is how we choose to engage with life.